To see and hear
what is here,
instead of what should be,
was, or will be.

To say what I feel and think
instead of what I should.

To feel what I feel,
instead of what I ought.

To ask for what I want,
instead of always waiting
for permission.

To take risks in my own behalf,
instead of choosing to be only
"secure" and not rocking the boat.

nach Virginia Satir